Flip it!

If you have ever taught or observed a teacher in action, you will find that in most moments the instructor is reminding students to pay attention, sit in their seat, stop talking, try harder, do better. Notice, where is the focus? It is very natural to ignore all of the many things going right and put your attention on the one thing going wrong. We do it to ourselves and each other all of the time! Our society is constantly focused on all of the negative situations occurring. I mean just watch a news program. What do you hear? Do you feel better about things or more depressed.

When a teacher has awareness and makes a choice to notice and voice out loud all of the positive occurrences going on, and see students in a positive way, students thrive and you end up seeing even more positive situations.

You can take this same principle and apply it to our problems, concerns, relationships, jobs, everything in our life. When I have a problem and I sit there thinking about it, focusing on it, worrying about it, nothing changes except I feel worse and discouraged. When I remember, and that is the crucial element here, to focus my attention on a solution, it arrives at the right time.

For instance, you might have an idea or interest in something and you have no idea how to make it happen. What you can do is focus on your idea, the feeling it produces, and trust that a solution comes. Again, I am not trying to figure it out. Instead, I am focusing on what I want and affirming that the solution comes at the right time.

There are SO many things going right in our life. Focus on that. Feel it. And when things come up, flip it. Affirm there is a solution, know it, feel it and let go.

That’s where magic happens.

One day you may meet a stranger or you see an old friend who points you in the right direction and in that moment, you get it. You don’t need to have it all figured out. But it is your right to dream, to do what you love, to celebrate your life and be happy! So flip it. Where is your focus?

Today I was reminded of the beauty that continues to happen with our awareness or not. So set your intent and trust the universe to fill in the details … pay attention to the nudges and watch the synchronicity of your life.

#peforthesoul #inspiration #shamanicpassagesinstitute

Thanksgiving thoughts

As I take time off for Thanksgiving break, I am reminded of all I am grateful for. I know some of you are struggling, sick, depressed, hurting in some way. For that reason, the Holidays can be a challenging and sad time for some. Please take comfort in knowing, this too shall pass. In my most painful moments in my life, when I was in it, it felt like it would last forever. There appeared no end in sight. It was scary and overwhelming.

I can’t know exactly how You feel.

I can’t.

I can only share that I have lived through my own terror – surprised that I made it. During my most challenging times, I reached out and asked for help. I allowed myself to feel and grieve. When ready, I allowed myself the pleasure of distraction, if only for a second, and turned away from the dread. I listened to myself. I looked into the mirror and gave a hug and declared “I love you.” When I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, I focused on all that I was thankful for…and one day, I realized I didn’t need to try anymore. It passed … and this continues to be the case.

No matter where you are at, I send you so much love during this time of Thanksgiving.

#inspiration #peforthesoul #shamanicpassagesinstitute

The mirror

I am coming up on 20 years of marriage and 23 years together. In looking back, I am most grateful that Will didn’t quit on me. I am most grateful for the mentors and teachers along the way. When I would cry my eyes out and blame him for this or that, I was guided to the most aware teachers in my life. They would often stop me in my tracks and return the focus back on me. They would ask me, “what is this bringing up for you?” They would ask all the right questions until I remembered that I was the master of my happiness and the sky was the limit.

Will is my best friend. He has been the most perfect mirror reflecting back to me all that I could conceive. I have chosen to love one day at a time. I have chosen to show up. I have chosen to forgive time and again as he has had to as well.

When we met my capacity to accept and give unconditional love was very low but I had no idea at the time.

23 years later, my heart is so full…full of love, acceptance and an excitement of new beginnings for our next exciting chapter. The sky is the limit and I am so grateful I have you, my best friend, to walk this journey with me.

#soulmates #peforthesoul #thesoulmatespath

REWIND, Create a New Story

Many of us have an experience. And in that experience, we determine if we want to experience it again. We make a statement about it and we create a story that determines our path ever after.

Let me give you a personal example. I once tried a yoga class. It was so hard and rigorous that my legs and arms were shaking as I left the class. At the time, I was experiencing anxiety in my life. This shaking created more anxiety for me, thinking something must be wrong with me. So the story I created was that I hate yoga classes and they are not for me. If I did yoga, it was at my own at home and it was a routine that worked for me.

The end.

Or so I thought.

There came a time in my life when I wanted to change my life. I wanted to create more joy, adventure and fun. So I imagined my new life on a regular basis, the one I wanted to create, and I set my intent. One day I was about to tell this yoga instructor that she could take me off her mailing list, that yoga classes are not for me. And I paused. I asked myself, “Why not?” Needless to say, I went to her class and loved it so much, I now cannot imagine not going to her yoga class. This happened because I was open to change. I was open to creating a new story.

Our story, the one we continue to remind ourself of, dictates our behavior which in turn creates our experiences. What if you decided to change your story? What If you decided to create a new one? What If? I dare you.
#manifest #create

Beating up on Self



Beating up on self.
We do that.

 A lot.

If a friend came up to you and confessed a painful moment, a moment she is not proud of, what would you say to her? Would you berate her, tell her she is worthless, nothing? Would you remind her of all of her mistakes over and over again?

Would you, instead, tell her to go easy, be gentle, let it go, we all make mistakes? Would you remind her that in that moment, that was where she was at, but she has grown and is a better person today? Would you remind her of all the good she has contributed to the planet just by being who she is or would you just focus on her perceived faults or mistakes? Would you remind her that every single person on this planet makes mistakes, has good and bad (a shadow self) but loving ALL parts is the greatest gift you could give to yourself and to the planet?

What kind of friend are you to yourself?

#peforthesoul #inspiration




Perception

This weed flower (and it’s unique strength) I saw this morning reminded me of a poem titled “Perception” I wrote in 1996:

we walk thru the fields
and all we see are the weeds
growing, expanding
spreading through all of the land
until that is all we see

we forget about the flowers
the trees
the crystal blue-white sky
sometimes we wonder about them……

we look again at the weeds
and we see the beauty in them
we see them dance
knowing their place in the world

and as we sit there
gazing at their perfection
and beauty
they start to fade

and all that is left is
the crystal blue-white sky
the magnificent, colorful flowers
the trees…

Copyright (c) 1996 Kimberly McCandless